People are always waiting for that “perfect moment” to change something about themselves. The only problem with that philosophy is that there is no “perfect moment.” Your perfect moment, day, month or year is just an excuse you give yourselves because you are too weak to have any give a damn about the choices that you make and the decisions you have chosen to live with.
The Common American throws away money they don’t even have, on a habit they can’t even afford. Whether it be drugs, alcohol, eating, gambling, partying, etc. People never grow up and therefore go through their entire lives making immature decisions. If you don’t want to get caught up in something, don’t start.
I don’t feel sorry for people who claim to have “demons.” Odds are, they are the ones who put themselves there in the first place. You are your own demon. You make a conscience decision when you decide to start smoking. You know that it is bad for you. You’ve been educated about it your entire life. Those who continue to do something self-destructive having knowing better do not get my sympathy when they start destroying their lives.
I could go on all day with examples. Smoking is just that. The important thing to get out of what I just said is that you control your life’s decisions. You and only you. You are the Captain of your own ship. Nobody tells you how to live your life. You wake up every day and it is your job to make the best decisions possible. When you mess up, you don’t pin your mistakes onto somebody else. You get over the hurdle and you learn.
Quit putting off to tomorrow what you can get done today. There is never going to be a perfect time for anything. You make a decision and you keep at it no matter what. People try to make changes only to give up shortly after. Changing for the better and because you want to is not easy but it can be done. Don’t be one of the weak ones. You have to be passionate about what you are trying to change. You can’t do it for anybody but yourself. When it all comes down to it, you and you alone have to deal with the decisions you make in your life. You may hurt others but you aren’t going to effect or improve their lives as much as your decisions impact your own life.
I have slipped before. Specifically one time where I decided to give up drinking for a year. I made it 8 months into the New Year and a friend came over and took two beers out of my fridge and came up with a laundry list of why I needed to not do what I was doing. For that one day, what I wanted to accomplish changed. While it was frustrating, I knew I could come back the following year and finish what I started and I haven’t had a drink since. I never think about or want to have a drink. It just comes off to me as a waste of time and money. The only way for me to live my life is clearly and this is just one of the many ways.
I JUST HUMBLED MYSELF. THERE YOU GO, I’M NOT PERFECT.
Be careful with who you hang out with. The best of friends may not be what is really best for you. Friends can be the biggest enablers when it comes to initiating change. They will either support you or laugh at you. In my personal experience, I love to be laughed at, just to prove them wrong. While they have probably tried to break habits and change certain things, similar to you, (because your friends) they most likely have failed if they are laughing about what you are trying to accomplish. They think they have “been there and done that” while they have really only “been there and tried to have done that.” Just because your friends can’t control what they do with their lives doesn’t mean you have to join them.
I know the world has this whole pity mindset of trying to fit in. I never understood why people would want to associate with a bunch of failures. If you can’t do something for yourself, I don’t have the will to trust somebody to do or help me do something as a friend. Cut off all of the bad apples to get to where you want to be. Only winners prevail in this life. The losers get left behind.